This following is an excerpt from my book “Research and Advice” out March 10, 2026, available here on my website.

Never double text. Like with all rules, there are exceptions to this, but overall, she saw and read your text. Women, especially those in their 20s and 30s, are bombarded nowadays with social media. They are rightfully slow in answering, if ever. If she’s interested, she’ll respond in several days, weeks, or even months. Heck, it might even be a year. If it’s more than that, you can be sure she’s definitely not interested. But crazy as it may seem, if she answers in six months, that doesn’t mean she finds you ugly, you just weren’t her romantic marketplace priority and she was emotionally busy (getting her cheeks clapped by Ben, the rich Wallstreet cokehead who demoralized her). Send a respectful, banal, “hello” text, perhaps with a cute observation or an unpressured question, just to open the possibility, that’s fine, but stop there. The ball is officially in her court, not yours. Remember the analogy of the penny: a healthy relationship is where you put a penny and she puts in a penny, and it goes back and forth, building and building and building. This is also called “mirroring.” But here’s my take: you shouldn’t be using “mirroring” as a mind-game to manipulate the situation (although, on a lesser degree, I understand adjusting one’s behavior is fine and good), but rather as a measuring tool to assess whether this is actually a good relationship. Do you two naturally mirror each other’s energy inputs? Respect that and yourself. Desperate energy only chases her away. Overall, don’t chase women, chase your dreams and your purpose. Those who are genuinely interested in you will come to you, and you only want to deal with that type. #ModernDating #ProfessionalPurpose #RelationshipDynamics