Excerpt from my latest book Forever Improving
Released April 25, 2026

In order to gain in life, you have to use some sense of “gentle” violence. Sitting on your ass and “hoping” something or someone will notice you is insanity. It will never happen. You have to go for it and strong-arm it. Like the pilgrims “stole,” or I should say, “occupied” the part of North America we now call the United States. They didn’t just roll on their backs, laugh, and fart. They went after this land, installed municipalities all over, deployed military all over, built roads and highways all over. Populated it. It was an aggressive, hostile takeover, also known as conquest, and perhaps even adverse possession. That’s what fighting civilizations do. It’s what people do, no matter their identity. The first one to establish wins. 

Men—with a burst of energy, you need to move yourself in front of a woman and demand her attention. Otherwise, she will walk past you on her phone, disrespecting you like you are some coward, but you are not. Women don’t have respect for men on dating apps; they aren’t “intimidated.” However, they do have respect, fear, and awe for the gentlemen in person, who can embody his charisma. That’s why average men do much better flirting in person.

What’s the worst that can happen? She says, “No.” Don’t say anything obscene or disrespectful, and you’ll be good. Do not approach her sexually, commenting on her “beauty,” or whatever. Just friendly: “I really like your dog”, “I love your shoes”, “what accent is that?” whatever the fuck is true. Acknowledge that she is busy. “I know you are busy, but you seem really nice (or kind). I was wondering, and totally no worries, but would you like my number?”

I always feel better having been rejected rather than sulking in regret. The latter is heavy, painful, and just annoying as fuck. We are better than that.

If you are rejected, you will never have to speak to her again. If she doesn’t have the respect to listen to your approach, she never will respect you down the line. “No worries. Good bye.”