Disclaimer: The following applies to any relationships really. 

If you want to serve someone, shut the fuck up and observe. Study. Then serve accordingly.

Men: NEVER interrupt, speak over, or in any way block women’s senses, absorption, and expression of their thoughts. Let them have the spotlight. You are the lion: the quiet, giant presence. Let the lionesses do as they will. 

See, women carry the antennas to the universe. Their senses and emotional safety are paramount. They must feel safe, listened to, and unrestricted in expression in order to thrive, and without them, Earth becomes Mars: cold and desolate. If you are talking over them, it will be a bad-ending relationship. You are blocking nature’s flow.

Your job is to shut the fuck up, and let them “feel out” the world. What they say, you will act in accordance. Men who love their women naturally do this: they listen to every word. They are quiet. They observe. Then, they serve accordingly, to make them feel protected.  You must let them sense the world, like letting your dog crucially smell when out for walks: this is how they interact deeply with the world.

Second, don’t tell people what to do. No matter who. Be the role model in your life, and if it’s good enough, people will take notice and adopt accordingly. Also, by telling people what to do, you are blocking their brainwave circuitry which reinforces actual learning. The burned hand learns best. Let them make mistakes. Now, this is not to say we don’t need intervention. Of course that can be necessary. I’m just talking generally.